Heaven : Heavenly interactions

Every believer hopes and prays that loved ones, when they die, are safe and secure in the arms of Jesus. But, losing a loved is tough on the most steadfast and faithful believer. It's like a part of you has been unceremoniously dissected away without anesthesia. And, in grieving, we want to maintain a closeness with our dearly departed. And, if we're not careful - that desire to maintain contact with deceased loves one can drift us - even innocently - into the occult.

For your own Bible Study, prayer and reflection, I'm going to wade into these waters with Scripture. And, when I offer my own opinion, I will designate it as my opinion.

Can people in heaven see us?

On the shelf in my office, I have photographs of all four of my deceased grandparents. I loved every one of them and each of them contributed to who I am today. They are all dead and gone, and I believe they are each in heaven. As I learn things about the two of died when I was a boy, the more I am at peace with them being in heaven.

But, the photographs make me wonder: Are they watching me from heaven? Are they disgusted by my life and decisions? Do they hurt when I hurt? When I laugh, does it make them happy?

Some believe that those in heaven can see us here on Earth. The Bible doesn't say they can't see us. Some anchor this thinking in Hebrews 12:1, which says, "Since we are surrounded by a cloud of witnesses . . ." But, in my opinion, that verse is often taken out of context. I believe this "cloud of witnesses" is less about heavenly spies and more about remembering the lives of faith that serve as a testimony (or witness) to us today.

Revelation 21:4 reminds us that there is no grief, tears or unhappiness in heaven. If our loved ones can look upon us, living in a sinful state, would not our actions and words bring them a measure of unhappiness and sadness? Yes, it would. My Mema would be very distressed at some of the things that I say and do. Because that anxiety can't exist in heaven, I don't believe my Mema is watching me. I believe she is caught up in the fellowship of heaven and in fellowship with our God.

Others say that those in heaven are aware of some Earthly occurrences. In Luke 15:7, Jesus says, “heaven will be happier over one lost sinner who returns to God” implying that all of heaven will know of this activity on Earth and celebrate it. In Luke 15:10, Jesus says, “In the same way, there is joy in the presence of God’s angels when even one sinner repents.” Because humans are not angels in heaven (read below), Luke 15:10 implies that humans - in the presence of angels - experience joy over repentance.

My opinion is this: People in heaven are not watching us here on Earth, but when someone on Earth - through receiving the gift of salvation and knowing Jesus as Savior - comes to faith then all of heaven is aware of it. Celebration occurs.

Are people in heaven interacting with us here on Earth?

We know that angels can and have interacted with us here on Earth. In Luke 19:28-44, the angel named Gabriel interacted with Mary. in Hebrews 13:2, we read that there are "angels unaware" among us today.

But, you and I don't become angels when we die. Angels are spiritual beings created by God to be His servants and messengers. He's given them great authority and power to do His will. Psalm 8:5 says that God made humans "a little lower than the heavenly beings."

But, when people go to heaven, 1 Corinthians 6:3 says that we will judge the angels, implying that our heavenly status in greater than the angels. You and I do not become angels when we die.

Laying that issue aside, leads us to this one: Can we communicate with our loved ones who are in heaven?

These are dangerous waters.

I believe that you and I can have dreams and visions of heaven, and in those dreams we may be permitted by the Holy Spirit to see our loved ones. I've had those dreams, some of you have, too, and mine have brought me a great measure of peace and comfort that I know could only come from the Holy Spirit.

I believe, too, that there's nothing wrong with going to a family member's grave site and talking to loved ones as if they are there. There's nothing wrong with going to a grave site, and saying, "I miss you, and let me tell you what's going on in my life." Does that message get to heaven? I don't know. If communicating that way brings you peace of mind, well, I find nothing wrong with it. The peace is coming from the Holy Spirit knowing your pain and bringing comfort to you - not from an interaction with your loved ones.

In all of this, there is a thin veil that I believe is very, very dangerous.

Satan loves to intersect us in grief and feelings of despair.

Praying to loved ones is heresy. Asking loved ones to "do things" for you in heaven, to talk with God for you, to come down and give you "signs" on Earth - that's borderline occult, in my opinion.

1 Timothy 2:5 says, "For there is only one God and one Mediator (Jesus) who can reconcile with God and people. His name is Christ Jesus."

A good rule of thumb is to talk to deceased loves ones, but don't ask them to do anything for you (even to bring you comfort - only Jesus provides comfort that we need from the heavenly realm) or to communicate with you.

Deuteronomy 18:9-14 warns us that "anyone involved in mysticism is an object of horror and disgust to the Lord." I would even extend that to practices that call upon loved ones to “be with us” during this time – however innocent things might seem. I’d be very careful about leaving an empty seat for grandma at the Mother’s Day lunch table, and acknowledging that she’s sitting there. Hearing a loved one through wind chimes or a bird outside the door is mysticism, my opinion.

Satan will use anything he can, especially during times of grief, to look for peace and comfort anywhere and everywhere but the arms of Jesus.

My counsel to you is this: Celebrate and remember the lives of loved ones. Know that as a believer, you will be in the company of loved ones in heaven one day. Let them go enjoy heaven until you get there. Find peace in your Savior and comfort in the loved ones still here with you. Don’t get consumed with holding on to those who have died and gone in unhealthy ways.

Heaven: Will we know one another?

Despite all the sickness, problems and pain in this world, we are in love with one another. It’s our love for one another that makes this world worth enduring. I can’t imagine – do not want to imagine – my life without my Vicki. And, we love our friends, don’t we? I have loved social media because it has allowed me to connect with people in all the chapters of my life – and not just connect with them but allow them to be easily accessible.

Scripture tells us to "love one another" and we do. And, that's really what makes the thought of death so painful to us. We don't want to say "good bye" and we don't people we love saying "good-bye" to us. Our lives become tangled with one another. Death rips it all apart and that is painful. We hate the idea of it, and we dread it, too.

Some of our funeral parlor cliche focuses on "seeing them again one day," but is that true? I believe it is.

But, again, let me caution you as never before: I really flinch over people who come to faith because they want to go to heaven one day. We must come to Jesus because we recognize our sinfulness and we crave restoration with our God. We recognize that a belief in Jesus - in heart and in mind - is the only way that restoration is possible. And, as we are saved from God's wrath, through Jesus, we enter our eternity today. At the moment our human body shuts down completely, we simply move on in life to be in heaven. Heaven is a reward - not a reason.

When I think about heaven, I believe we will see our friends and loved ones in heaven, and we will be able to spend time with them. But, our primary focus will be experiencing God and enjoying the wonders of heaven. I think it will be like going to a giant birthday party, where many of my family and friends will be. I will know a lot of people, I will mix and mingle with a  lot of people, and I will laugh and enjoy the company of a lot of people, but THE PARTY and the GUEST OF HONOR will be the focal point of the party.

From Scripture, we get the idea that people are recognizable in heaven:

• 1 Samuel 28:8-17 : King Saul recognized Samuel when the witch of Endor summoned him from the realm of the dead.
•  2 Samuel 12:23 : David says that he will recognize his infant son that had died.
•  Luke 16:19-31 : Abraham, Lazarus, and the rich man were all recognizable after death.
•  Matthew 17:3-4: Moses and Elijah were both recognizable after death.
•  1 John 3:2 : “But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.” 1 Corinthians 15:47 : “And just as we have borne the likeness of the earthly man, so shall we bear the likeness of the man from heaven. For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality.”
•  People recognized Jesus after His resurrection. (John 20:16, 20; 21:12; 1 Corinthians 15:4-7). If Jesus was recognizable in His glorified body, we will be recognizable in our glorified bodies.

Will Vicki and I be married in heaven?

No. Why do we have marriage on Earth? Eve was made because Adam needed a companion. Second, there was the need to procreate. Neither of those will be needed in heaven, and so therefore there won’t be a need for marriage. Vicki and I will know one another, and I believe we will know we were married here. And, we will enjoy fellowship in heaven. But, we won’t be married. Matthew 22:23-30.

Will I be sad if I don’t see certain people?

Revelation 21:4 reminds us that “God will wipe away every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain for the old order of things has passed away.”

We won’t be sad and so we won’t mourn those we don’t see. 1 John 3:2 says that through following Jesus, we are already God’s children. As one of God's children, and through my faith in Jesus, I will be 100 percent at peace with who is in heaven. I will completely understand why some are not in heaven. Why? Because they chose not to believe in Jesus while they were on Earth.

Now, that’s hard to understand when we stand here today and think about children, brothers, sisters and parents who might not be with us in heaven. That’s why there should be an urgency, today, to confront people we love with the gospel. 

Will I know my unborn child in heaven?Psalm 139:13-16 reminds us that we were knitted together before we were born; that God saw us before we were born. We were woven together in the dark of the womb. In God's eyes, we became "born" at the moment of conception.

Romans 6:23 says "the wages of sin is death." Unborn children, babies and even children who can't clarify right from wrong have, in fact, willfully sinned. Psalm 51:5 says that that every child born is born with a sinful nature and is subject to judgement. God must punish all sin.

But, Psalm 136:26 reveals God as a God of goodness and mercy. Psalm 145:17 says God is gracious in all His works. 

In 2 Samuel 12, God causes David's infant son to die. The son was conceived in an adulterous relationship with Bathsheba. David then orchestrated for Bathsheba's husband to go to the front lines of battle. David ordered that the troops retreat, leaving Uriah exposed to the enemy so he would be killed.

David mourns the death of his son and in 2 Samuel 12:23 says, "I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me." This implies that God has given David comfort that David will see his son one day in heaven.

I trust completely that Vicki and I will one day see the baby we lost through miscarriage. I believe, too, that followers of Jesus who had abortions will see those babies in heaven as well.

We can also draw comfort in Jesus' love for the innocents. In Luke 18:16 he says, "Let the children come to me.” I believe through Scripture that Jesus holds a very dear, loving, special place for little children, and that would include the unborn.

What age will I be? How can I recognize my babies?

This is an unanswered mystery. We know we will recognize one another and that's all. In 1 John 3:2, John writes, “Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when He appears, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is." Some have tried to speculate that based on this verse we all be about the same age as Jesus, when he was crucified – about 30.

I don't believe that, personally. I just have confidence we will recognize one another. (End)